Editors Note: The italics are an intro, the eulogy itself is below the photos.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
In the early hours of Saturday, March 22, my father passed away, at home, in his own bed, from natural causes. He was not struggling. He didn't cry out or look scared. We didn't know it would be his last day. He had looked a little more lackluster earlier that evening as my sister was visiting him at our house. Yet his vitals were normal, so he was put to bed. By 3:00 AM his caregivers said he was breathing heavily, so they propped him up on his pillows hoping to create some relief. His pulse was good at 69... And yet, he took one big breath and then, no more. Don't we all wish to go under our own roof, free of wires and tubes! For that much, and that he is no longer in the state that he had been in, I'm very grateful.
Photo by Joannah Merriman
For the previous five years he'd suffered from a multitude of conditions that happen to the body when it gets old. In the fi…
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November is National Novel Writing month. Did you know that?
I want to encourage people who are thinking of doing NANO to do it.
It's described as "a fun, seat-of-your-pants approach to creative writing. On November 1, participants begin working towards the goal of writing a 50,000-word novel by 11:59 PM on November 30... for anyone who has ever thought about writing a novel." (more on the NANO website)
And I will add - or writing anything, and meeting others who are doing the same.
I've been contacted by a few writing friends who are hesitant so I want anyone else out there to know:
THERE IS ZERO DOWN SIDE
This is a luxury - a GIFT you give to yourself - a whole month where you just make time to write - you will benefit greatly from nothing but support for 30 days. No one holds you accountable, there are no task masters, no shame of dropping out, & no need to reach 50,000 words. It is about having a rare, FREE opportunity to get encouragement, support, …